By : Kevin John
Have you ever had the experience of feeling overwhelmed, out of control, depressed? Do you sometimes feel that you are down in a hole, facing obstacles that you just can’t overcome? Maybe you’ve lost your job, you’ve broken up with your life partner, you can’t seem to loose weight, you’re bills are always greater than your income…
There are lots of reasons why you might find yourself in a place that is less than desirable, in need of some mental self help.
And yet, you come across other people who seem to sail through life without a care or a worry. Everything seems to work out right for them, they have great relationships, plenty of money, good jobs …
You need mental self help
I’m going to let you in on a big secret – everyone faces problems in their lives, even the most successful people!
The big difference is how each person deals with them. Those successful, happy people have a positive mindset that enables them to cope with life’s challenges easily. They believe that they are in charge of their lives.
People who struggle with life’s challenges often believe that they are not in control, that other people, their surroundings, the economy, politicians are in control of them. They believe that they do not have the power to break free of their current circumstances.
The difference is the realisation that the biggest part of any problem that you face is the part that’s in your own mind. Mental self help can help you to achieve this realisation and then to use it to overcome your problems.
There have been many studies by psychologists that show that the way we see our world is controlled by our own thought processes. Here’s the problem – our thought processes also control how we feel about ourselves and our prospects of success and our feelings can affect our the way that we see the world around us.
Your mental habits can mean you either end up in vicious circle of negative thinking and bad results or a virtuous circle of positive attitude and success.
The key to switching from one cycle to the other is mental self help – recognising that you can control your own mental state .
Of course for people with serious mental problems the challenge of controlling your mental state may be overwhelming in itself and there are many people and professionals out there to help. However, even in these cases mental self help can complement the work of the professionals.
Mental Self Help Tools
There are many mental self help tools that have been developed over the ages. Some you can apply yourself and some are available at little or no cost today. Here are just a few of them:
- Find sources of positive information, regular inspiration, and quotes and plug into them. A daily dose of positive thinking, if taken regularly, will change your mindset.
- Take a broader perspective – it’s extremely unlikely that you are the only person to have this problem and it’s also very likely that someone else has had it much worse. Find out how other people have managed to overcome the same problem and take inspiration from their example.
- Remember FEAR – False Expectations Appearing Real. Your own imagination almost always magnifies a problem beyond it’s real magnitude. Step outside of yourself and take an honest look at just what the worst that could happen is – is it really as bad as you are imagining?
- Let it be OK that things are bad, work on adopting the belief that you will be able to turn things round. It may be one step at a time, little by little, but gradually you will be able to do it.
- Examine your own beliefs and values . How have they contributed to your circumstances? Are there any that have not served you well? Can you change them?
These are just a few suggestions, you’ll find much more information in the resources and articles sections of this website.
Kevin John has spent many years helping businesses owners, aspiring business owners, and private individuals to develop the understanding and skills that they need to achieve the success that they want. If you would like to comment on this article or ask Kevin a question, you can contact him at firstname.lastname@example.org